The chances of your fatling reforming his or her piggish habits are slim and none. There are ways to motivate and get people to do the right thing but it takes an intervention of sorts. I would suggest that you watch the show Intervention and observe the behavior of junkies and the frustration of their love ones. You will undoubtedly see parallels. It can be quite maddening.
I can explain how it is done but it takes examples, a support system, preparation, and the ability to learn strategies. It takes a skilled interventionist running the show and since there are no interventionists that work with gluttons you have to become that interventionist.
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The behaviors of the druggie or drunk are pretty much like the behaviors of the glutton but with some major differences. First, a person can live without drugs or booze but we humans need food, water, and air. Food is not considered a dangerous drug but it kills more people than all the drugs and booze combined. Also, the very thing that is there to sustain life has become addictive, unhealthy and deadly.
When confronting your glutton you will be met with the same resistance as you would if you confronted a junkie or a drunk. You will be met with denial, lying, hostility, the excuses, and the guilt. Addicts are very unpleasant people for the most part and your impulse may be to slap the shit out of them which would work but in this PC world we can't legally do that. We have to be clever and use verbal judo.
An intervention usually includes the following steps:
Make a plan. A family member or friend proposes an intervention and forms a planning group. ...
Gather information. ...
Form the intervention team. ...
Decide on specific consequences. ...
Make notes on what to say. ...
Hold the intervention meeting. ...
Follow up.
You can't be concerned about hurting their feeling because they are going to play the victim card in an attempt to turn you into the bad guy and to garner sympathy but the truth is, they don't care about your feelings or the damage their behavior does to you, your relationship your kids. Keep in mind your fatling is a masterful manipulator who knows how to push your buttons so you have to make your behavior during an intervention unpredictable, cool, calm and collected.
Before you try this watch some interventions on TV or Youtube and watch them with your team. You may fail the first time but you may succeed eventually. You have to decide if it is worth the effort.
http://www.aetv.com/shows/intervention
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